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About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 1
Who is a Relationship Destroyer?
Sounds cruel? Do you know someone who you would label a “relationship destroyer”? Come on now… we’re adults here. We’re not being judgmental. We are simply having an intellectual discussion about one of the most important, controversial and debated subjects of serious concern. If you agree, continue reading. If you are a “know it all” or you prefer to turn a blind eye to the importance of discussing relationships, discontinue reading and go find something to read or to do that’s more appealing to you. I will believe you have had perfect relationships in the past, you are in an idyllic, loving relationship now, and that you are the ideal, faultless partner. Good for you. If that’s the case, maybe we should clone you now or bow down to your holiness.
Most People do Not Have Perfect Relationships
But the reality is… most people do not have perfect relationships, in fact, most people, I didn’t say all… I said, most people have demanding, troublesome, tormented and/or loveless relationships. Would you like to add a few of your own adjectives to this list? Oh, did I forget abusive? Yes, abusive relationships. I’m not referring to people who physically abuse their partner; I’m talking about people who verbally, emotionally and/or physically abuse their partner. But this discussion isn’t about domestic violence, though that is another subject of serious concern.
You can see why discussions about relationships are necessary, debatable and why there are many dynamics in relationships that can be studied and challenged. Already, you may be saying: “What in the h– is she talking about? I have a fantastic relationship!”
We Are All Potential or Confirmed Relationship Destroyers
Until then, as I see it, the reality is this: we are all potential or confirmed relationship destroyers of one kind or another! It’s not necessarily intentional. It’s an element of the human condition. Some humans have mastered the art of being a relationship destroyer. Other humans are merely practicing it, slowly getting more efficient in their involvement with it, seeing it happen before their eyes but unable to stop it. And there are others who are completely oblivious to the endless dynamics which can cause the fragmentation and destruction of their relationship.
So Who Causes This and Why?
Men may say: it was my wife’s fault or my girlfriend’s fault. Women may say their husband or boyfriend is to blame. You may say: it wasn’t me; I didn’t do anything wrong, or maybe: I was a little to blame, but it was mostly my partner’s fault. Who is right? Who is at fault? Now, are you being judgmental?
(to be continued – Part 2)