PEDOPHILIA VS SEXUAL ORIENTATION

Pedophilia Is NOT a Sexual Orientation I came across a Facebook post on September 5, 2020 that I knew would become controversial, and as a Clinical Sexologist, I must respond to the public with my contrary report. The post’s header was: ‘Scholars Say Pedophilia Is Now A Sexual Orientation That Should Be Accepted by Members of Society’. Pedophilia is a paraphilia and paraphilia used to be called a sexual deviation or perversion, so I will strongly refute this theory immediately! I’m wondering who was desperate enough for recognition in this field that they were compelled to defy all established, clinical research with such a ridiculous claim. The clinical fact is: Pedophilia is listed as one of the paraphilic disorders. There are other paraphilic disorders in DSM-5, such as necrophilia, zoophilia and bestiality. If acted upon, these are criminal acts. However, the etiology of paraphilias is unknown. A paraphilia is thought of as ‘a learned behavior’. This behavior occurs primarily in males between 6-12 years old, yet some clinicians believe it occurs more in the 5-7 year range. A pedophile is defined as having an interest in children under 13 years of age. Paraphilias are a lifelong condition. So let’s correct this theory. Pedophilia… Continue reading

Dungeon VS. Clinic: The Origin of My Non-Conventional Research Project

It was amazing in those early days, when people met me and heard what I did for a living; they became anxiously interested in seeking my advice about their personal sex lives. This happened on a regular basis in and out of the dungeon. Everywhere I went and most everyone I met became curious and started inquiring, probing…. I felt I was “on stage” wherever I was, but I didn’t have a problem sharing my knowledge, nor did the subject of “sex” embarrass me. It seemed everybody had questions or issues about their relationship or sex life. Most mainstream people were not familiar with the subculture I was involved with, but they knew it dealt with sexuality and that is what caught their interest. Discussions with strangers and acquaintances quickly became as frequent and popular as with my personal friends and fetish enthusiasts. Whenever I divulged my taboo occupation to family doctors, I was asked to stay and chat with them after my appointment. Predictably, they all wanted to be enlightened on the subject of domination and submission and what went on in the dungeon. Who were my clients and what did they ask for? I gladly obliged, because I… Continue reading