Category: Relationships

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  Many people don’t know that there is such a profession as a Sexuality Educator or Clinical Sexologist which is why people are fascinated, curious and sometimes overwhelmed to meet Me. It is likewise fascinating to Me to see their reactions and receive their questions. Most everyone has questions about sex and/or sex is on their mind frequently. I enjoy sharing My knowledge with folks who want to learn. I do not, when it appears they do not want to hear the blatant truth, which I feel is my responsibility to enlighten them with. Some people don’t want to believe the truth, turn a blind eye and others become shocked but handle it. Still others embrace what they learn from Me and become empowered and/or find answers for their issues and dilemma. I am a Sexuality Educator who entertains people with education. I have found over the last 35 years that My provocative, flamboyant presentation style has worked well for Me. I am thoroughly grateful I have been able to influence, guide and help thousands of people. I am devoted to My profession for those reasons. I just recently realized, I may be one of the highest paid ‘Relationship Experts’,… Continue reading

MEDICINE CABINETS – HOLD ‘DIRTY LITTLE SECRETS’

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. Medicine Cabinets Are ‘Relationship Destroyers’!!! It’s a well-known fact that people like to snoop through bathroom medicine cabinets.  In fact, it is said that more than 50% of people who visit your home will really take a peek inside your medicine cabinet.  Many folks have advised that it’s a wise move to take a peek into someone’s medicine cabinet before you decide to get serious. The medicine cabinet tells volumes about a person who may not be sharing that important information with you! You’ll see if you know their legal name, the kind of medications with the dates will suggest what health issues, both mental and physical are being medicated. This is such a phenomenon, that websites show slides and videos to give you voyeuristic peeks into a plethora of medicine cabinets. Everything from sex lube, poppers, prophylactics (if size matters to you – lol) denture cream and hemorrhoid suppositories to Prozac, Seconal, Oxycodone, and Viagra!  Hell, you might get lucky to discover your prospective date or mate may have forgotten their stash of recreational drugs is in the bathroom, or maybe a sex toy! You might get a hint about their sexual practices, but of course, communication is… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Eight

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Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships: PART 8 – DEPENDENCY – UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS      Expectations, unrealistic expectations are a major relationship destroyer.  No matter how you look at it, no matter which half of the relationship you stand for, expectations are a killer. This section could be a separate book in and of itself because it’s complex. complicated and sensitive material yet at the same time, if you look at the dynamics of ‘expectations’ through clear, unbiased, objective eyes, it’s not difficult to understand. I will explain it as I see it. This blog will only deal with one aspect of it, and it’s getting clinical, but we’re all adults here, so you can handle this. If the truth were told in equitable terms, we all have certain expectations of the person we share a relationship with. We expect this, we expect that – we wait for this, we imagine that and all of these expectations serve to fulfill our needs and desires or to compensate for what we feel we lack and deserve. Some  fair, reasonable and appropriate depending on the situations at hand. Effectively or should I say Some expectations are normal, fair, reasonable and appropriate… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Seven

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Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships: PART 7 – The DAY the ONION CRIED: 16 DYNAMICS of SUFFERING   We think about sex, infidelity, money, and lots of other things when we talk about relationship destroyers.  We also put the blame on mental cruelty and other abusive relationships.  Have we ever gone deep down into the mire of mixed emotions? This Blog will be to the point about the major human condition that is likely to rule our personal world and predispose us for an imbalance in life.  I’m referring to suffering. Some of you might be thinking “enough said”, Dr. Grenci, ’cause I know all about suffering.  And I’ll agree with you, that you do.  We all do.  If you haven’t, I’m going to think you do not belong to our species, so where are you from? I’m prepared to open a huge can of emotional worms here today. This discussion is not about being negative or trying to upset anyone.  This discussion is purely for the purpose of facing reality…. yes, the mute point underneath and on top of all this is – reality.  I don’t expect everyone to agree with me, or even read this… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Six

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. . About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 6 When Two Become One… Joined at the Hip Haven’t I heard that somewhere before?  RED FLAG! Old school, maybe, but we’ve definitely become familiar with the saying, ‘when two become one’.  Another familiar saying is: ‘joined at the hip’.  You might think, cute, sweet, how wonderful that sounds, but the reality is… that philosophy is… a relationship destroyer.  Maybe not today, maybe not when you first think it or say it, but on down the road, being up someone’s ass after a certain amount of times can get extremely uncomfortable, or… painful.  Yikes! However, there is a lot of truth in the saying: ‘too close for comfort’ and ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’.  Have you ever wondered where those saying came from?  I realize when your love is new, or your chemistry is on fire, that’s how you may feel, thinking: OMG, I want to be with him (or her) every minute of the day and night.  I applaud your feelings and celebrate your reasoning… for now.  But for most couples, that need and desire will eventually wane down to another level.  I say eventually, giving most couples the… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Five

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 5 –  Relationship Cages I may have a strange and unique way of expressing my views about relationships, but the reason is simply this… it’s my opinion.  Unless your passion is to be someone’s submissive or sex slave or you are a devout masochist, relationship cages a turn-off, suffocating, threatening, and damned nerve-racking.  Cages are relationship destroyers for many individuals.  If you are a cage creator and cage keeper, you may be a relationship destroyer, depending on the personality of your other half. If you are thinking, what cages? I’m going to take a peek inside these cages and right into the heart of the matter, so if you are the cage keeper and you have keys to the locks on any of these cages – find your keys.  If you are locked in Cage #1…. ah, … GET OUT!  Cages #2 & #3 speak for themselves. Relationship Cages = Relationship Destroyers: Cages Can Cause to Weak Your Links or Destroy Relationships Cage #1 – JEALOUSY: Do you often find yourself in emotional turmoil? Do your emotions suffer in silence? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells in fear of upsetting your partner or spouse?… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Four

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. . About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 4 The Main Attractions – Is it Chemistry? Or Can Chemistry be an Umbrella Term?  Are Our ‘5 Senses’ & Imagination necessary for a Successful, Sexual Relationship?  Are We challenged by Sexual Chemistry? Do we rely on these famous 5 plus our imagination to tell us if we are sexually suited for one another?  Do we, or should we have a daily diet or at least, a continuous diet of the ‘famous five plus’ to keep a relationship sexually alive?  You better believe you should.  My musing continues here. For most people, I believe we would all agree, that initially, the main attraction from one person for another is a sexual attraction or sexual chemistry.  With some couples sexual chemistry maybe become intense, but with others, it may be mild in nature.  However, the important factor is that you have a compatible libido with your partner so that both individuals feel satisfied instead of neglected or pressured into intimacy they don’t desire. Chemistry as an Umbrella Term For the sake of argument, let’s use ‘chemistry’ as an umbrella term because there are other things that can keep chemistry alive and functioning, but unfortunately,… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Three

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3 Are Your Ready To Get Serious Here? I was pleased to receive your responses. Everyone’s comments in Part 2 were right because those were the main principles we were taught to abide by to maintain the best relationship(s) possible.  To remember the conclusion of Part 2, we agreed that: Trust, respect, honesty, communication and fidelity are the main principles for most romantic or sexual relationships.  I asked: “Do you think these basic principles are enough to ensure most intimate or sexual couples of a harmonious, fun-loving, romantic, successful, lengthy relationship?”  The answer is flat out – NO! Before I continue with an explanation, I will tell you briefly about myself, because an insight to my thinking and philosophy is necessary for you to understand how and why I come to the conclusions I do.  That, in and of itself, still might not be enough for you to follow my train of thought, and that’s okay.  I don’t expect all of you to do so, for the simple reason we all come from different places in life at the present time, different lifestyles, different cultures, different belief systems/traditions, different educational backgrounds, different family… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Two

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.About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3 About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 2 The Majority of Us Are at Fault To begin with, unfortunately, the majority of us are at fault for taking part in destroying a relationship or relationships. Period. Only the brave and confident will agree and admit to being at the very least, partially to blame for having their part in ruining or Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships(s).  As I see it, much of this is a result of what we learn in childhood from parents, family, and friends, how we interpret relationships as a child, and how we relate in adulthood to how and what we interpreted relationships as children. Another Key Factor is: What we are NOT taught as children and growing up. We are taught and study English, Math, Social Studies, and Science in grade school, then go on to the same plus Biology, a foreign language, electives, etc. and on to college for the advanced courses, majors, maybe adding psychology, human sexuality or sociology to the mix, etc., but what class or course taught us  specifically how to have a successful relationship?  All the comments made so far are true and are… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part One

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 1 Who is a Relationship Destroyer?   Sounds cruel?  Do you know someone who you would label a “relationship destroyer”? Come on now… we’re adults here.  We’re not being judgmental.  We are simply having an intellectual discussion about one of the most important, controversial and debated subjects of serious concern.  If you agree, continue reading.  If you are a “know it all” or you prefer to turn a blind eye to the importance of discussing relationships, discontinue reading and go find something to read or to do that’s more appealing to you.  I will believe you have had perfect relationships in the past, you are in an idyllic, loving relationship now, and that you are the ideal, faultless partner.  Good for you.  If that’s the case, maybe we should clone you now or bow down to your holiness. Most People do Not Have Perfect Relationships But the reality is… most people do not have perfect relationships, in fact, most people, I didn’t say all… I said, most people have demanding, troublesome, tormented and/or loveless relationships.  Would you like to add a few of your own adjectives to this list?  Oh, did I… Continue reading