Relationship Destroyers – Part Six

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. . About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 6 When Two Become One… Joined at the Hip Haven’t I heard that somewhere before?  RED FLAG! Old school, maybe, but we’ve definitely become familiar with the saying, ‘when two become one’.  Another familiar saying is: ‘joined at the hip’.  You might think, cute, sweet, how wonderful that sounds, but the reality is… that philosophy is… a relationship destroyer.  Maybe not today, maybe not when you first think it or say it, but on down the road, being up someone’s ass after a certain amount of times can get extremely uncomfortable, or… painful.  Yikes! However, there is a lot of truth in the saying: ‘too close for comfort’ and ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’.  Have you ever wondered where those saying came from?  I realize when your love is new, or your chemistry is on fire, that’s how you may feel, thinking: OMG, I want to be with him (or her) every minute of the day and night.  I applaud your feelings and celebrate your reasoning… for now.  But for most couples, that need and desire will eventually wane down to another level.  I say eventually, giving most couples the… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Five

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 5 –  Relationship Cages I may have a strange and unique way of expressing my views about relationships, but the reason is simply this… it’s my opinion.  Unless your passion is to be someone’s submissive or sex slave or you are a devout masochist, relationship cages a turn-off, suffocating, threatening, and damned nerve-racking.  Cages are relationship destroyers for many individuals.  If you are a cage creator and cage keeper, you may be a relationship destroyer, depending on the personality of your other half. If you are thinking, what cages? I’m going to take a peek inside these cages and right into the heart of the matter, so if you are the cage keeper and you have keys to the locks on any of these cages – find your keys.  If you are locked in Cage #1…. ah, … GET OUT!  Cages #2 & #3 speak for themselves. Relationship Cages = Relationship Destroyers: Cages Can Cause to Weak Your Links or Destroy Relationships Cage #1 – JEALOUSY: Do you often find yourself in emotional turmoil? Do your emotions suffer in silence? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells in fear of upsetting your partner or spouse?… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Four

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. . About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 4 The Main Attractions – Is it Chemistry? Or Can Chemistry be an Umbrella Term?  Are Our ‘5 Senses’ & Imagination necessary for a Successful, Sexual Relationship?  Are We challenged by Sexual Chemistry? Do we rely on these famous 5 plus our imagination to tell us if we are sexually suited for one another?  Do we, or should we have a daily diet or at least, a continuous diet of the ‘famous five plus’ to keep a relationship sexually alive?  You better believe you should.  My musing continues here. For most people, I believe we would all agree, that initially, the main attraction from one person for another is a sexual attraction or sexual chemistry.  With some couples sexual chemistry maybe become intense, but with others, it may be mild in nature.  However, the important factor is that you have a compatible libido with your partner so that both individuals feel satisfied instead of neglected or pressured into intimacy they don’t desire. Chemistry as an Umbrella Term For the sake of argument, let’s use ‘chemistry’ as an umbrella term because there are other things that can keep chemistry alive and functioning, but unfortunately,… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Three

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3 Are Your Ready To Get Serious Here? I was pleased to receive your responses. Everyone’s comments in Part 2 were right because those were the main principles we were taught to abide by to maintain the best relationship(s) possible.  To remember the conclusion of Part 2, we agreed that: Trust, respect, honesty, communication and fidelity are the main principles for most romantic or sexual relationships.  I asked: “Do you think these basic principles are enough to ensure most intimate or sexual couples of a harmonious, fun-loving, romantic, successful, lengthy relationship?”  The answer is flat out – NO! Before I continue with an explanation, I will tell you briefly about myself, because an insight to my thinking and philosophy is necessary for you to understand how and why I come to the conclusions I do.  That, in and of itself, still might not be enough for you to follow my train of thought, and that’s okay.  I don’t expect all of you to do so, for the simple reason we all come from different places in life at the present time, different lifestyles, different cultures, different belief systems/traditions, different educational backgrounds, different family… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part Two

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.About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 3 About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 2 The Majority of Us Are at Fault To begin with, unfortunately, the majority of us are at fault for taking part in destroying a relationship or relationships. Period. Only the brave and confident will agree and admit to being at the very least, partially to blame for having their part in ruining or Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships(s).  As I see it, much of this is a result of what we learn in childhood from parents, family, and friends, how we interpret relationships as a child, and how we relate in adulthood to how and what we interpreted relationships as children. Another Key Factor is: What we are NOT taught as children and growing up. We are taught and study English, Math, Social Studies, and Science in grade school, then go on to the same plus Biology, a foreign language, electives, etc. and on to college for the advanced courses, majors, maybe adding psychology, human sexuality or sociology to the mix, etc., but what class or course taught us  specifically how to have a successful relationship?  All the comments made so far are true and are… Continue reading

Relationship Destroyers – Part One

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. About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships – Part 1 Who is a Relationship Destroyer?   Sounds cruel?  Do you know someone who you would label a “relationship destroyer”? Come on now… we’re adults here.  We’re not being judgmental.  We are simply having an intellectual discussion about one of the most important, controversial and debated subjects of serious concern.  If you agree, continue reading.  If you are a “know it all” or you prefer to turn a blind eye to the importance of discussing relationships, discontinue reading and go find something to read or to do that’s more appealing to you.  I will believe you have had perfect relationships in the past, you are in an idyllic, loving relationship now, and that you are the ideal, faultless partner.  Good for you.  If that’s the case, maybe we should clone you now or bow down to your holiness. Most People do Not Have Perfect Relationships But the reality is… most people do not have perfect relationships, in fact, most people, I didn’t say all… I said, most people have demanding, troublesome, tormented and/or loveless relationships.  Would you like to add a few of your own adjectives to this list?  Oh, did I… Continue reading

ENTER to WIN: SECRET CINEMAS – Until Mar 10

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Win:  Steamy Short Stories as Print Book Giveaway Secret Cinemas: 10 Erotic Movie Fantasies only 18 years or over… Andy Warhol, film-maker and visual artist, once famously stated: “Sex is more exciting on the screen and between the pages than between the sheets.”  How true this really is, proves Dr. Charlayne Grenci in her latest book: SECRET CINEMAS: 10 Erotic Movie Fantasies. Opening SECRET CINEMAS, you are entering a world of sexual fantasy, passion and pleasure where you can explore and experience the powerful, captivating realm of erotic sexual adventures and escapades. AMAZON REVIEWER: “I really liked the “out of the box” idea of placing yourself in the storyline. It is a very erotic book and a new take on erotic novels. Awesome book, I highly recommend it.” Only for a short time: US-Goodreads members have a chance to win the print version.  Sign up at Goodreads to WIN …SECRET CINEMAS https://www.goodreads.com/giveaway/enter_choose_address/224108-secret-cinemas-10-erotic-movie-fantasies   <><><><><> Continue reading

My New Year’s Resolutions 2017

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  1-  LOVE – I will love as much and as often as possible because we never know what today or tomorrow will bring. Will I be here tomorrow or next month for those who need me, love me and count on me? Will that old man be alive in another month? Will that dear lady be well enough to hear my words, to feel presence and my touch or be aware I’m by her side? Or will she be too ill to remember I exist, to remember I care? I will continue to be kind, compassionate and supportive to those who need me.   2-  WORK – I will work as hard and consistently as my profession warrants and my ability can handle the work; to be as creative and productive as I can be; to never falter and never give up. I plan on publishing 4-5 more books in 2017!   3-  HEALTH – Exercise – Promotes Discipline: I will exercise at least 1-2 hours daily, 4-6 days per week; to eat sensibly, to keep mind, body and soul in check, knowing exercise is the key to “good health”, “a clear and focused mind” and that it dominates… Continue reading

TRUMP IS – A SEXUAL PREDATOR!

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TRUMP VS. HIS VICTIMS They Are Telling the Truth!!! I’m looking forward to Hillary Clinton becoming the 1st woman to ever win the Presidential election!!! I believe Trump has finally shot himself in the foot too many times. His boasting and denial of engaging in sexual predatory behavior with the women who finally stood up to report him, was the final straw. I had similar experiences with men decades ago, too, but not Trump (that would have grossed me out the most). I DID NOT report any of those incidents either, to the social media, police or anyone except a friend. That wasn’t an option for me or most other women, for these reasons: 1 – No laws to defend women then, like there is today, 2- Women were criticized and blamed for causing the trouble and then humiliated by it, 3- Women would have their names and reputations dragged through the mud. 4- Women were not believed, so “telling” or “reporting” wasn’t an option for most of us back then. 5- Embarrassment to my family Read this… Examples of my experiences in the 1970s & 1980s in Florida: 1- A physician’s employment application for assistant in a doctor’s office… Continue reading

SECRET CINEMAS, Grenci’s New Book About Sexual Adventures!

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 SECRET CINEMAS IS COMING SOON….  To The Theatre ‘In You’!!! You’re invited to Secret Cinemas, created and directed by Dr. Charlayne Grenci for adult entertainment. Dr. Grenci is the sexologist and Imagineer that wants the reader to let go and experience sexual adventures with a virtual reality mindset. This book is about sexual fantasies and sexual adventures that we can experience in our imagination. We all have a very private, secret theatre in our imagination which I call a secret cinema. It’s an erotic, bizarre or beautiful, sometimes kinky or evil, naughty or nice ‘show-time’ any time we choose to see it. Secret Cinemas is here to make your imagination come alive. If you can dream it, you can experience it, if you let your imagination run wild.  Everything we can see in our imagination, we can experience in a make-believe virtual sense, like it’s happening to us, because our minds are as powerful and creative as we allow them to be. Our imaginations are as dirty and decadent as it can get.   Secret Cinemas is pioneering a distinctive path of its own, while not claiming to cover all aspects of previously published books about sexual fantasies. This book offers… Continue reading